2014年1月15日 星期三

Delete his (D:) or not (Annotation 4 Revised)

  Adult videos, had always been regarded as guilty pleasure, a bad temptation. We are always told to get away from it in Taiwan. How about other country think about adult videos?

According to Pascal Bruckner (2011), who comes from France.” When his two-year-old daughter took off her bathing suit on Florida beach, the summer visitors started looking at them. Then the sheriff came and shouted at them that they had to get their daughter dressed again even though she was just a baby.

  In this incident, it points out an interesting view of the view between Americans and French. The North Americans have problems with sex that come from its Protestant legacy. In France, people don’t have strict conception about sex. In America, they do care about this because of their religion. When Bill Clinton had an affair with a White House assistant. It not only aroused a great sensation in society, but also he was sanctioned because he lied. 
” When America produces so many adult videos but they say they couldn’t accept adult videos pop up in their lives, isn’t it strange and meaningless? 
It is the difference b
etween America and France’s view when talking about adult videos. In my opinion, adult videos are not that bad. People may worry about the negative influence. However, the film Batman, has violence. Does it lead to people’s death under the gun shot due to the imitation of the plots? Isn’t it more serious when we are talking about the negative impact?

According to another article from Stacy Nelkin (2013),it quoted Colorado psychologist David Schnarch’s words, that “Porn can actually help foster emotional and sexual intimacy”. Because some people advocate adult videos would ruin people’s confidence and sex life, especially female. David Schnarch had also mentioned that fantasy is part of a healthy sex life, and porn adds to the repository of sex scenarios in our heads. It can also inspire couples to experiment more in the bedroom. 

  People would agree that adult videos are unrealistic and had less education about sex. From Tracy Clark-Flory (2013), she suggested that “If porn can be damaging to relationships, it is , as with most things, often in our refusal to communicate honestly about it with our partners.” It is for us to watch what our lovers had watched and jumped to the conclusion about he didn’t love me anymore or I am as attractive to him as before quickly. Therefore, instead of angry at your lover who is watching adult videos, why not just share your feeling with her or him? He or she who watches adult videos doesn’t mean you are not attractive. The most important thing about this issue should go back to the base of one mature relationship. That is, trust and communication.

Sources: 
1. Pascal Bruckner, “Making war, not love : A French Views On Sex In America-From Abu Ghraib To DSK, (2011)
http://www.worldcrunch.com/making-war-not-love-french-view-sex-america-abu-ghraib-dsk/eyes-on-the-u.s./making-war-not-love-a-french-view-on-sex-in-america-from-abu-ghraib-to-dsk-/c5s3642/#.UtbQFvQW3_0

2. Stacy Nelkin, “5 Reasons Why Watching Porn Together Can Be Good For Your Relationship”, (2013)

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/stacey-nelkin/5-reasons-why-watching-po_b_2766968.html

3. Tracy Clark-Flory, Does porn hurts relationships?, (2013)
http://www.salon.com/2013/01/22/does_porn-hurt_relationships/

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