Hot Issue (2011), a TV show in Taiwan, hosted by Belle Yu and Sam Cen discussed why men like to watch adult videos, they interviewed one couple, Mia and Echo, who watched adult videos together, and interview other people between different ages, generations and sex.
Mia and Echo, is the younger couple who believe watching adult videos would promote the feeling between lovers. In the interview, Echo said that sometimes his needs are too frequent; he would download the adult video beforehand, and watch it to vent physiological needs when Mia was taking a bath. In the interview, it also talked about the different points when men and women watch adult videos. Most men would focus on the action while most women would focus on the plot.
There is another elder couple, Cool Dad and Cool Mom, who are married and have children. They would watch adult videos to promote their feelings with their children. Instead of forbidding them to watch adult videos, they would choose to let them watch and discuss with them to tell them the differences between video and reality. They sometimes also watch adult videos to add some interests in their daily lives.
Actually, it is natural for human to have demands. If the way they use to solve the demands without bothering others and don’t cause problems, I couldn’t figure out what is the point to forbid.
There are five reasons in Stacy Nelkin’s suggestion (2013) about why couple watches adult videos together?
1. It is a share experience.
2. It's an easy way to learn about your partner's fantasies.
3. It can speed up foreplay.
4. It shatters the myth that you can (and should) only be attracted to your mate.
5. It may lessen the need to act out on sexual desires outside of your relationship.
Above all, it talks about what the people less talk about, because of feeling embarrassing or awkward. If so, communication is the best way, tell your lover about how you feel about it. If you want to watch adult videos with your lover, there is not only the mainstream adult video, which we all know it is over-acted, we could have a discussion mildly. In the period of communication, you two are going under through a milestone that lots of couples can’t get over with.
1. Belle Yu and Sam Cen, Hot Issue (TV show) Why men like to watch adult videos?, (2011)
2. Stacy Nelkin, “5 Reasons Why Watching Porn Together Can Be Good For Your Relationship”, (2013)